Resources:
Check out our most recent interview: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/have-you-considered/id1527312081?i=1000495688058
Watch our webinar on the Upper Limit Pattern in Relationships: https://hendricks.com/product/big-leap-bridge-class-the-upper-limit-pattern-in-relationship/
Watch our video on "Keeping Sex Alive in a Long Term Relationship" - https://foundationforconsciousliving.org/big-leap-programs/keeping-sex-alive-in-a-long-term-relationship-a-big-leap-bridge-class-recording-with-marlene-and-bob-neufeld/
And watch the video of us and two other couples exploring which tools have been most influential in creating amazing relationships: https://foundationforconsciousliving.org/the-buzz/couples-qa/
Check out Episode 16 - Bob and Marlene Neufeld on Sex and Relationships (The Living Better Podcast) where we are interviewed by Matt and Jodi: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pJDuBZ5TKBM
Creativity video on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CkDGxi74k9c
Appreciation video on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qvhpr7DG_Ac
MakingITbigger video on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RzQ6XZKPLDY
Recommended Books:
Magnificent Sex, Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers, by Peggy J. Kleinplatz, Ph.D. and A. Dana Menard, Ph.D. Routledge, New York & London, 2020
Rekindling Desire, by Barry McCarthy and Emily McCarthy, Routledge, New York & London, 2014
The Wisdom of Menopause, by Christiane Northrup, Bantam Book, Random House, New York, 2001 (especially pages 277 to 307 section on sexual functioning and menopause).
Books to help with relationship issues:
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver, Harmony Books, New York, 1999, 2015
Wired for Love, How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship by Stan Tatkin, PsyD., New Harbinger Publications, Inc. Oakland, CA, 2011.
Book on Play
Play [How It Shapes the Brain Opens the Imagination and Invigorates the Soul] by Stuart Brown and Christopher Vaughan, Avery, 2010.
Our Articles:
Download our e-book from Amazon "13 Ways to Connect With Your Lover"
A Month of Self-Appreciation
Agreements: How to make and keep agreements
Agreements: What to do when agreements are broken
Be Open To Learning
Being With Our Lonely Scared Parts
Blame In Relationships
Broken Trust
Cancer and Sexuality
Celebrating
Clean Pain Or Dirty Pain
Connection - or - Disconnection? It is Your Choice
Conversations its' not worth having (Part 1 - who said what)
Conversations its' not worth having (Part 2 - why did you do that?)
Conversations its' not worth having (Part 3 - who is right?)
Conversations its' not worth having (Part 4 - you are inaccurate or exaggerating)
Conversations it is worth having Part 1 (tossing, revealing, appreciating, making clear agreements)
Conversations it is worth having Part 2 (reflecting, validating, unarguable truth, genuine regret followed by what I plan to do differently)
Conversations it is worth having Part 3 (learning, shifting from "you" or "we" to "I", having fun, taking yourself lightly, laughing at yourself, generating curiosity and wonder)
Conversations it is worth having - Tossing
Conversations - Why do people have the kind of conversations we don't recommend having?
Defensiveness
Desire in long term relationships; the role of willingness
Emotional Literacy
Four Pillars of Integrity
From Entitlement To Appreciation
Give Essense Gifts this Holiday Season
Holding Things In
Honesty: What do you do instead of speaking the truth?
Honesty: Speaking the Unarguable Truth
Honouring Our Teachers
How To Have More Fun This Holiday Season
How To Stop Arguing About Money
How To Take Yourself Lightly
How We Support Our Beliefs (i.e. There Must Be a Reason)
Integrity
Leading With Appreciation
Leading With Gratitude
Learn To Speak In Ways That Do Not Promote An Arguement
Learning to Love Ourselves
Lessons Learned From A Visit With My Son
Listen Generously to Your Partner
Listening Filters (what you do when you aren't listening generously)
Listening Generously: Attitudes, Practices, and how to do it (step by step)
Love Yourself
Loving Kindness In Every Moment
Lying Hurts Your Health
Negative Intent
No First Cause
No More New Years Resolutions!
Opening To Love
Polarization
Projection
Respect!
Revealing
Sharing Household Tasks
Shift Your Attention
Self-Sabotage
Shift from Blame to Healthy Responsibility
Shift From Seeing Yourself as a Victim to Knowing Yourself as a Person of True Creative Power
The Dance Of Relationship: What Step Are You Doing?
The Importance of Attitude/Intention
The Value of Blurting
Toxic Guilt
Uncovering 'Who We Really Are': Personas and the Triangle Game
Unmet Childhood Needs And Negative Intent
Upper Limit Patterns
Upper Limit Patterns (graphic)
Victim Talk & Responsibility Talk
What Can You Really Control?
What Rules Are You Making Up?
What to Do With Our Feelings
What is more important? - yourself or your relationship?
When you no longer "love" each other
Whose Business Is It?
Why We Don't Recommend Apologies
Withdrawing or Pursuing (Which Step are you doing in the Dance of Relationship)
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